If you are anything like me you have probably wanted to be somewhere else in life as well. You have wanted to be younger or older, single or married, richer, tanner, smaller, more popular…the list could literally go on forever. There is always somewhere else to be, some other goal to meet, somewhere other than here and now. It is this unending discontentment and anxiety…
I spent most of my childhood wanting to be a “grown-up”, I’ve had an old soul from the beginning so childhood just really wasn’t my thing. I preferred reading and quiet places. I wanted to make my own decisions, have my own place, and just be an adult. Thankfully I love being an adult! It is seriously the best in my personal opinion, I love being responsible, relied on, and productive. I mean it’s not always easy by any means, but I love it. But when I was young I always wanted to be 13, then 16, then 18, then 20. Now I’m almost 24, I look back and think, “Where did the time go?” I was always looking for the next thing…a car, a diploma, a job, a relationship, an engagement ring…now I have those things and I catch my self thinking “What next?” As if those milestones were merely a check off of a to-do list. Now I’m here planning a wedding that I’ve spent my whole life looking forward to and it’s surreal, almost like it’s not even happening…and I’m thinking about marriage, kids, a house, etc…the never ending “next”. It’s enough to drive a girl crazy!
When does it stop? When do we arrive at a place where here & now is exactly where we want to be? I believe that it is up to us to break the cycle, to embrace the here and now . Here are some tips for choosing to live your best life now:
Gratitude is key to any kind of happiness in life. It is choosing to look beyond what you do not have, who you are not, and where you are not and truly appreciating everything that you do have. There will always be another goal or milestone, but you may not have everything that you have today, tomorrow. Appreciate where you are, tomorrow will here before you know. Believe it or not tomorrow will come with it’s own trials, that job will not be perfect, that relationship will not be perfect, or you may find out the green grass on the other side of the fence was artificial turf. It’s life, it happens whether we spend years worrying about it or not. We get one life here on earth, and then it’s gone. Do we really want to spend it all worrying about tomorrow?
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.
1 Timothy 6:6-8
2. Rejoice with Others.
There is nothing worse than being so unhappy or discontent with our own lives that we cannot be happy for someone else. People are going to experience things before we do, people are going to have things we want, their lives are going to look perfect. But just like us they need people too, because they don’t have it all together, no one does. Instead of being envious or bitter let’s rejoice in the milestones of others. Ladies, let’s quit belittling the success and accomplishments of other women. Society does that enough, instead let’s build each other up, encourage each other, and be happy for each other. Your time will come! And how much sweeter will it be when all the women you poured into rejoice with you? Society and Social Media have ruined the joys of life and made them nothing but a competition to see who can get there first and which one has the most likes. Let’s work together to turn the tables and rejoice with each other.
Rejoice with those who rejoice.
3. Don’t Give Up.
There will always be another status to reach, another goal to conquer…and that’s okay until it begins to steal your joy and contentment. There is nothing wrong with wanting a career, a husband, or to be a mom. What is wrong is being so blinded to where you want to be that you miss the good things today. Don’t miss out on your college years worried about a relationship or a job, don’t take that boyfriend for granted worried about an engagement ring, and don’t take those precious first years of marriage worried about having kids. The here and now is all we have right now and it will be gone before we know it. God knew your life before you were even born, and He’s working everything out for good (Romans 8:28). Love the life He has given you today, and strive to be your best today! Don’t give up on pursuing your dreams, setting goals, or being grateful for where you are today. Tomorrow will come on it’s on, embrace the here and now.
You will keep in perfect peace
those whose minds are steadfast,
because they trust in you.