Recently God has really laid this on my heart and when I began to see the same message everywhere I decided that I might want to pause and pay attention. Everywhere I look someone is talking about the words we speak and how crucial they actually are. Our words are powerful! I’ll be honest sometimes the nicest things do not come out of mouth, I am prone to complain (or as I like to say “vent”), prone to being a little too “honest” to/about people, and I love to throw around negative words like “hate”, “can’t”, “never”, “stupid”, “jerk”, etc… And to be really honest I have become desensitized about the negativity around me and the negativity flowing from my mouth. In fact negativity is encouraged in today’s world, it gets a good laugh, it’s funny.
Single people say things like: “forever alone”, “I’m going to die alone”, “No one wants me”, “always a bridesmaid, never a bride”, “Netflix is bae”, “all the good men/women are gone”, etc. I know because I’ve been there, I was convinced at the ripe old age of 22 that it was just going to be me and house of cats. If we say those words enough or hear those words enough we will begin to believe it, I did! People say things about their finances: “I’ll never have enough”, “there will never be enough”, “I’m broke”, etc. We tend to talk to the people we care about the most the worst, we throw around “I hate you” almost like it’s endearing. We say “that’s dumb”, “you’re stupid”, “shut up”,”you’re weird” without even a second thought. We tell ourselves things like “I can’t do that”, I’m fat”, “I’m lazy”, “I don’t care”, “I’d rather die than…”, “I’m depressed”, “I’m dying”, the list goes on and on and on. And we wonder why the world around us is so messed up, why our lives are so messed up. We wonder why things get worse instead of better. It’s our words.
“The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Proverbs 18:21
Our words are so powerful, they set the course for the rest of our lives. Think back to something that someone said to or about you that hurt you, did you ever forget it? Did you even start to think it about yourself? Words do not just go out and dissolve, they attach themselves to their victim like a parasite and unless rebuked they become apart of who that person thinks they are. Those words will drain you of your life, that’s how powerful they are. But there is freedom, we are not past the point of return. Hopefully, like myself, you see the problem and want to change it. Change begins with you, you can not change the words that people have spoken over you or speak around you, but you can choose your words and the words you let define you.
Thought & Heart Check
“But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you.” Matthew 15:18
The heart, everything comes from the heart. Have you ever said something that surprised even you? Most likely it came from your heart, good or bad. What started as a thought was then tucked away in your heart and eventually escaped through your mouth. That is how it works, in order to stop these words we have to catch them in the process. Ask yourselves these questions: “Why am I thinking these thoughts?”, “Why do I feel this way?”, etc. We have to stop them in the mind and heart to keep them out of our mouths. Seek God, ask Him to show you where the problem lies. After being convicted this week on my words I am trying harder to filter them before I speak them. I ask myself a series of questions before I say something like “is this kind?” or “Is it life-giving?”. It will take time to re-program the words I say, but it is something I think that is very important to Christ, to my future and to the people I care about. Find the root of the problem, develop a process or a filter for your words, and trust God to help you.
Choose Your Words Wisely
“And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak.” Matthew 12:36
If we had to wear every word we spoke on our bodies how differently would we speak? I imagine some of us would say a whole lot less and we would say it very carefully. One day when we stand before God the Bible says that we have to give an account of every idle word we spoke. Woah! The word idle means without a purpose or pointless. If your words are not serving a purpose then they are pointless, and we will give an account of them.
I remember growing up and hearing “if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”. Even today this is great advice. If your words are not kind, then keep them to yourself. In today’s world it is so easy to speak your mind with little or no consequences thanks to social media. But just because we can does not mean we should. If you have a problem with some one go to God, not to social media, and if the timing is right talk to that person about the issue. If it is not kind, if it is not encouraging, and if it not life-giving then my best advice is to keep it to yourself. Choose your words carefully and wisely. Be purposeful with the words that come out of your mouth.
“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” Ephesians 4:29
Your words determine your situation. The more negative the words you speak over your life, the more negative your life will become. Speak faith over yourself, there is no situation that you will ever come in contact with that God is not big enough for. We are His children, seek to find and understand the identity He has given you. Forgive the people who have spoken evil over you, forgive yourself for the evil you have spoken over you and claim the names that God has given you. We have the power, the power over our words. I want to share a declaration (or a prayer) with you found in the small group curriculum I am going through this semester.
” I am blessed with God’s supernatural wisdom, and I have a clear direction for my life. I am blessed with creativity, with courage, with ability, with abundance. I am blessed with a strong will, self-control, and self discipline. I am blessed with a great family, good friends, good health, and with faith, favor and fulfillment. I am blessed with success, supernatural strength, promotion, and divine protection. I am blessed with an obedient heart and with a positive outlook on life. I declare that any curse that has ever been spoken over me, any negative evil word that has ever come against me, is broken right now. I am blessed in the city. I am blessed in the country. I am blessed when I go in. I am blessed when I come out. Everything I put my hands to is going to prosper and succeed. I am blessed!
I printed it out and plan to hang it up where I can see it everyday, I pray that it touches you the way it touched me. Your words matter, choose them wisely.
Lots of Love 💕,
*Declaration taken from “Living in Freedom Every Day”, Life Small Group Workbook, Chapter 8.